As women, we often find ourselves at a crossroads between two energies: submission and surrender. At first glance, they may seem like kindred paths, but in truth, they hold profoundly different vibrations, each leading us to distinct experiences of self and life.
Surrender, for many of us, feels familiar. It’s a subtle, often unconscious trade-off—a way to negotiate with the universe while maintaining a semblance of control. In surrender, there’s an underlying mechanism of safety: “If I lay this down, then I’ll get that.”
It’s transactional, tethered to outcomes and the illusion of certainty.
While surrender can feel like letting go, its essence often keeps us tethered to what is known, predictable, or comfortable.
But submission? Submission is daring.
Submission asks us to step entirely into the unknown, to trust our inner knowing without conditions or guarantees. It invites us to release not just the surface layers of control but the deep-rooted need to orchestrate outcomes. This is the feminine path that few dare to walk—a path where we abandon the safety of “trade” and instead offer ourselves wholly to what is unfolding.
Submission is an act of courage. It’s the willingness to let go of the roadmap, to allow the whispers of our inner wisdom to guide us, even when the destination is unclear. It is trust in its rawest form—a trust in life, in ourselves, and in the unfolding of our unique path.
Where Are You Clinging to Control?
Take a moment to reflect. Where in your life are you still clinging to control, perhaps disguising it as surrender?
- Is it in your relationships, where you give, but with the expectation of reciprocity?
- Is it in your work, where you follow your intuition, yet still strategise every step to achieve a specific outcome?
- Or perhaps it’s in your personal evolution, where you embrace growth but remain attached to how it should look or feel?
The distinction between surrender and submission lies in how deeply we are willing to trust ourselves. Surrender often operates within the familiar, whereas submission invites us to dissolve into the unknown. It’s the edge of mastery—the space where true evolution begins.
Mastery Lies in Not Knowing
Submission requires the bravery to sit in the tension of the unknown, to let go of the need for guarantees. It asks us to quiet the mind, to soften the grip of the ego, and to lean into the whispers of our higher self.
What would it feel like to truly submit to the power of your deeper wisdom?
Perhaps it would feel expansive, like space opening up inside you. Perhaps it would feel terrifying, as you loosen your grasp on the structures that have kept you safe. Or perhaps it would feel deeply liberating, as you finally give yourself permission to rest in trust.
This is where the feminine finds her true strength—not in control, but in openness. Not in certainty, but in her willingness to allow life to move through her, unfiltered and unforced.
So today, I invite you to sit with this distinction. Explore the ways you might be surrendering with strings attached, and where you are being called to step into submission.
Let’s dare to trust the unknown together.
Have a listen to this VLOG, where I discuss this more deeply, or you can find the episode on my podcast here.
Have courage, dear heart.
Love, Charli x
