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Embracing the Parts of Ourselves We Avoid

Embracing the Parts of Ourselves We Avoid
May 23, 2024 Charli Wall
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๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ฑ โฃ
And avoidance of those parts is resistance. โฃ
What we resist persists. โฃ
There is usually a theme of shame, guilt, blame or fear running the programming of your unconscious mind. โฃ
I can usually find the root of all behaviours (solutions) in the darkest places of the mind, rooted in shame. โฃ
Rooted in fear. โฃ
Rooted in guilt. โฃ
Rooted in avoidance. โฃ
Weโ€™ll do anything to avoid โ€œgoing thereโ€ & from ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต place, it canย reallyย look like weโ€™re the victim of life, people, circumstances or just plain โ€œlack of willpowerโ€ โฃ
We shame & blame ourselves for our perceived flaws, thus round & round we go ..โฃ
The way though is to shine a light on those darkest corners. โฃ
Speak your truth. โฃ
Owning all of it. โฃ
Once you do this those places will start to melt & healing can start. โฃ
If you continue to avoid yourself theyโ€™ll keep running the show from behind the scenes.. โฃ
The way out is throughโฃ
It can be painful but itโ€™s so very worth it. โฃ
Have courage, dear heartย โ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿฆ

  • The Nature of Avoidance

Avoidance is a natural human response to discomfort.

When we encounter aspects of ourselves that we find unpleasant or painful, our instinct is to turn away.

However, this act of avoidance is, in essence, a form of resistance.

And as the saying goes, what we resist persists.

The parts of ourselves that we avoid do not simply disappear; instead, they continue to influence our thoughts, behaviours, and decisions from the shadows of our unconscious mind.

  • The Power of Unconscious Programming

Our unconscious mind is a vast reservoir of memories, emotions, and beliefs, many of which we are not consciously aware of.

Often, these unconscious elements are driven by deeply ingrained themes of shame, guilt, blame, or fear.

These themes form the core of our inner programming, shaping our behaviours and responses to the world around us.

It is in the darkest corners of our minds, where these uncomfortable feelings reside, that we can find the root causes of our behaviours.

  • The Cycle of Shame and Blame

When we avoid confronting these uncomfortable parts of ourselves, we often fall into a cycle of shame and blame.

We perceive our flaws and limitations as personal failures, blaming ourselves for our perceived inadequacies.

This self-reproach only deepens our sense of shame and reinforces the patterns of avoidance.

Round and round we go, trapped in a cycle that prevents us from moving forward.

  • Shining a Light on the Darkness

The path to breaking this cycle begins with the courage to shine a light on the darkest corners of our psyche.

This means speaking our truth, acknowledging the parts of ourselves that we have kept hidden, and owning our experiences without judgment.

By bringing these hidden aspects into the light, we can begin to understand and integrate them, allowing healing to take place.

  • The Process of Healing

Healing is not an easy or painless process.

It requires us to confront our deepest fears and insecurities, to feel the pain that we have been avoiding.

But it is through this process of facing and embracing our whole selves that true transformation occurs.

As we own our truth and release the burden of shame and guilt, the parts of ourselves that we once avoided begin to melt away, losing their power over us.

  • The Importance of Courage

Embarking on this journey of self-discovery and healing takes immense courage.

It requires us to step into the unknown, to face discomfort and vulnerability.

But the rewards are profound.

By confronting and integrating the parts of ourselves that we have avoided, we open the door to new levels of personal growth and self-empowerment.

  • The Way Out is Through

The way out of the patterns that hold us back is not to avoid them but to go through them.

It is by facing and embracing our whole selves, including the parts that we find most difficult, that we can unlock the next level of our evolution.

While this journey can be unpalatable for the ego, it is ultimately a path to greater self-awareness, healing, and awakening to the truth of your feminine nature.

Have courage, dear, and step boldly into the light of your truth. The feminine awakening that awaits is well worth the journey. โ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿฆ

THIS ^^ was taken from this month’sย CIRCLEย Ask Me Anything ๐Ÿ™‚
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